I Gave Up Shopping for 40 Days and This is What I Learned
Posted April 20, 2016 by Prairie Wife - 7 comments
A few of you that read this blog may not be aware that I am Catholic. While it is a big part of who I am as a woman, wife, and mother, it’s not really a big part of this blog. I mention prayer and God, and even shared a post about the grouchy lady at church, but overall it doesn’t often come up in blog posts.
Those of you that aren’t Catholic may not know about the liturgical season of Lent. It’s the 40 days before Easter and it’s a very serious time in our church year. We focus on Jesus’ sacrifice and try to prepare ourselves for the celebration of His resurrection at Easter. Some of the ways we do this is by fasting, not eating meat on Friday’s and by giving up something during Lent.
This year I dug deep when it was time to pick something for Lent. I wanted to choose something that would have a lasting impact. When I thought about my favorite things to do shopping came to the top of my list.
So, even though I knew it would hurt, I decided to give up online shopping, and buying anything we didn’t NEED for Lent. I even added no eating out…
I waited until now (almost a month after Easter) to write this because I wanted to be honest about how (and if) my choice changed my shopping and spending habits.
The first week was a piece of cake. I was full of religious zeal and it was no problem to keep away from Target. It wasn’t my grocery shopping week, so that made it even easier to keep away from temptation.
The second week was a bit harder. I was missing my time checking out JustFab.com and there were a few bath products that were running low. I normally purchase from VintageBodyCare.com and I realized I was just going to have to make do with what I had left. When I went to the grocery store I stuck to my list and didn’t waver when I saw the sale signs and buy 2 get 1 free deals. I really wanted to stop by the drive through for dinner on a busy night but, took a deep breath gripped the steering wheel, and drove on by. Dinner was bit later than usual but we all survived.
Then came the third week, and it was suddenly time to buy birthday gifts for Cowboy C. When making my Lenten promise I failed to notice that I would have two Cowkids’ birthdays during Lent…
The top gift on Cowboy C’s birthday list was a “Cat Bob” which we finally figured out meant a Bob Cat. He had seen a stuffed one at a friends house and wanted a live one of his own. While I knew that wouldn’t work, I did think I would be able to find a plastic one or a stuffed one. Four stores and almost two hours later and I had to admit defeat. It was all I could do to keep off Amazon.com where I knew a simple search and free two day shipping would bring one right to my door. I took a deep breath and prayed that Cowboy C wouldn’t be too disappointed when his birthday came.
Turns out Cowboy C was fine with no “Cat Bob” , he never even mentioned it. Lesson learned: Kids will be happy with what they get, and it’s me that tends to build up the idea of “the perfect gift” not them.
Week four rolled around and The Cowboy and I had a big event to go to. Normally I would head out and buy a new dress to wear but, not this time! Instead I hit my closet and dug deep. I found a dress I hadn’t worn for years and styled it with some chunky accessories and a tuxedo blazer that I had. I spent some time on Pinterest and tried a bolder makeup look to make my look feel fresh and new.
About this time I realized that I tended to visit online shopping sites on my phone when I was bored. It wasn’t nearly as much fun when I couldn’t actually buy anything!
Week five, and it was time to visit Target. I of course had to test myself, and I slowly walked by the women’s clothes. It was hard not not pause and look through the clearance rack but, I knew there was nothing I needed. It was hard but, after over a month of no shopping I had the routine down. I simply focused on my list and took a deep breath and kept on walking while repeating in my head “only what we need, not what we want”.
Finally Easter rolled around and Lent was over and I could shop again! I found myself with my favorite shopping partner, my big sister TexasTwoSteppin’! She took me to a darling boutique and while I easily saw a dozen items I wanted I spent some time to truly think about the items and ended up purchasing just one pair of boots. I bought one souvenir for each of The Cowkids, that’s it. With hours to kill in the airport it never even occurred to me to browse through my favorite online shopping sites.
When I got home I made a few purchases of items I would need for my surgery. I noticed it had become part of my shopping process to evaluate items I had chosen before I left that section of the store. More often than not I was placing at least one item back on the rack.
I am back to using my beloved Amazon.com but I am way more conscious about what I am buying and if I really need it. I’ve been putting items in my cart and waiting a few hours before purchasing them, just to make sure I’m being practical.
The Cowboy commented on how he noticed that we had spent $100’s less during that time…yup $100’s. Not only was I being more frugal about indulging in my wants but, I was really taking a fine tooth comb to our overall monthly budget.
I have to say that I learned way more from this than I thought. I realized that not only had I been a bit wasteful with our money, but with my time as well. I still plan to use online shopping for hard to find items (like “Cat Bobs”) but I’m proud to say I’m shopping locally more often. Not indulging as frequently makes the few items I’ve bought for myself and the kids all the more special. In the end, giving up shopping for Lent taught me to be grateful. I found that spending so much time thinking about what we already had (instead of what we didn’t), helped me to appreciate how blessed my family is.
What do you think? Could you give up shopping for a month?
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