Mama Mantra: Our Home is a Safe Place

Posted May 19, 2017 by Prairie Wife - 2 comments

The Cowkids have been at each others’ throats the last few days, going out of their way to be annoying and hurtful and mean.

Some of the craziness is because The Cowboy has been gone for 2 weeks and I know that this ridiculous Spring weather in NOT helping. Every teacher and mother knows that children are barometers. When a big storm is headed in, they’ll be twice as chatty as usual and bouncing off the walls!

Tonight we went to Cowboy J’s end of year band concert. The hour before was spent at ballet practice. Then we were driving through snow and wet roads to get to the concert just in time to stand in the back. The Cowkids were terrible, at least by my behavior standards.

kids fightingThey pushed, pinched, picked at, and generally antagonized each other the whole entire time.

When we finally got home and ready for bed and prayer time, they continued to terrorize each other.

I told them all to sit down, fold their hands, and gave them lecture #47

“Our Home is a Safe Place”

I explained that our home is the one place where they are to always feel safe.

Safe from bullying, safe from feeling less than, and safe from harm.

Their job is to lift each other up, to celebrate their differences, and to protect each other.

I explained that the world is a crappy enough place with enough hurt and anger to go around. I refuse to have my own children making each other feel worse.

They’ve heard this all before and I’m sure that they will hear it again but, it’s a message that I want them to know deep down in their soul.

I was mercilessly bullied all through grade school.

safe familyHome was my safe place, and the power of that can never be underestimated.

It allowed me to be confident despite the cruel words said to me each day, and to grow to become who I knew I was meant to be.

Siblings will fuss and fight, and I know better than to expect the calm to last.

But, I will continue to insist that our home is a safe place.








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2 thoughts on "Mama Mantra: Our Home is a Safe Place"

  1. Bennie says:

    It sounds like you gave them a very nice and timely lecture (#47 – LOL).

    We are sisters in the bullying dept. I too was bullied and tease mercilessly through school. My name, Benedict, started it all. I was first Benedict Arnold, traitor, stool pigeon, teacher’s pet, followed by (the movie) Ben the Rat (sounds like a gangster), and Bennie and the Jets. Of course if I knew then what I knew now I would have turned Bennie and the Jets into a positive – yep, Elton John wrote a song about me. Has he written one about you?

    But I didn’t think along those lines back then. Kids words and actions can really sting and stay with us. To this day I still have some PTSD (if we can refer to it that way) from those years.

    Keep up the positive good work!

    1. Prairie Wife says:

      Like you I always think of the right things to say too late lol! Thanks for your support 🙂 I agree, the things that happen during those growing years can effect us forever…I still hate making my eye makeup too dark because I was called frog eyes for so long I hate to draw attention to them.

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