Mama Mantra: Our Home is a Safe Place
Posted May 19, 2017 by Prairie Wife - 2 comments
The Cowkids have been at each others’ throats the last few days, going out of their way to be annoying and hurtful and mean.
Some of the craziness is because The Cowboy has been gone for 2 weeks and I know that this ridiculous Spring weather in NOT helping. Every teacher and mother knows that children are barometers. When a big storm is headed in, they’ll be twice as chatty as usual and bouncing off the walls!
Tonight we went to Cowboy J’s end of year band concert. The hour before was spent at ballet practice. Then we were driving through snow and wet roads to get to the concert just in time to stand in the back. The Cowkids were terrible, at least by my behavior standards.
They pushed, pinched, picked at, and generally antagonized each other the whole entire time.
When we finally got home and ready for bed and prayer time, they continued to terrorize each other.
I told them all to sit down, fold their hands, and gave them lecture #47
“Our Home is a Safe Place”
I explained that our home is the one place where they are to always feel safe.
Safe from bullying, safe from feeling less than, and safe from harm.
Their job is to lift each other up, to celebrate their differences, and to protect each other.
I explained that the world is a crappy enough place with enough hurt and anger to go around. I refuse to have my own children making each other feel worse.
They’ve heard this all before and I’m sure that they will hear it again but, it’s a message that I want them to know deep down in their soul.
I was mercilessly bullied all through grade school.
Home was my safe place, and the power of that can never be underestimated.
It allowed me to be confident despite the cruel words said to me each day, and to grow to become who I knew I was meant to be.
Siblings will fuss and fight, and I know better than to expect the calm to last.
But, I will continue to insist that our home is a safe place.